What We Do Without Thinking

Wendy Wood, PhD wrote a fantastic book, Good Habits, Bad Habits: The Science of Making Positive Changes That Stick that can help us live a better life. I strongly encourage you read this book. If you do, please share your thoughts.

As listed on Goodreads and Google books, I posted this review.

We all now live in what seems like a very busy time. More than ever before, we are constantly bombarded with more information on a regular basis through our phones, TVs, and other media platforms. The constant onslaught of information causes us to be distracted or not fully focused on what we are doing. It is when we are not consciously determining what we are doing that habits seem to play their biggest role. Habits, according to Dr. Woods book, are what happens, or what we do when we are not thinking, distracted and or otherwise occupied. They are what we do automatically.

She documents that much of our life, upwards of 50% or more comes automatically, or are habits we can do without thinking consciously about the act. These are the things we have done over and over, and because we have done them over and over we have come to favor these acts. These acts are ones we will now defend and use because they are familiar and easier to do than to consciously think about what should be done. As she continually documents, we rely on habits because consciously thinking or developing new behaviors is exhausting.

The book especially resonated with me because my work focuses on health and or working on lifestyle behavior changes. While doing healthy actions once is not hard, it is difficult to regularly engage in healthy behavior. It is hard because society often encourages us to make less than optimistic choices. For these reasons and many more, this emphasized to me why it is vital to have healthy habits so we can be healthier from good life behaviors we automatically choose.

While that sounds simple, she did not sugar coat the idea and lead us to believe it would be easy to create habits. She explained habits take a lot of time and effort before they become automatic. According the research, on average it would take 66 days of repeated behaviors to make actions automatic. That means 2 months and 1 week is the needed time to create habits and will be needed for our actions to become automatic.

Although it takes time an effort, she provided a strong argument for why making the effort to create good habits would be worth the effort. At the end she says we should create habit because, 1. It helps people get more done and 2. It creates a more integrated and simple way to live. I think these are things we all want and are why I strongly recommend this book

Overall, Dr. Wood helps understand how can AUTOMATICALLY take actions that can generate comprehensive improvements by creating net-positive, pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits. I look forward to hearing how habits improve your life – please share.


Craig Becker

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Science is Our Only Way Forward

I am concerned. I am afraid some will stop reading when they read the first sentence in the next paragraph. Please keep reading and share your thoughts with me with a comment or email. Please know we don’t have to agree on everything to know that we are partners in our quest toward creating a better tomorrow. Lets work together!

I am atheist. I want to be agnostic but I can’t. I came to this after my unfortunate car accident where my three friends, the driver and the 2 other passengers were killed. It was awful, though my brain injury has saved me from remembering most of it. All in the car were 17 or younger.

 I was left in a coma and with a traumatic brain injury. The brain injury caused me to lose all I had known previously. As a senior in High School, I went from taking calculus at the local university to figuring how to even put homework on a sheet of paper and doctors recommending my parents not send me to college because they didn’t think I could handle it. Thank you mom & dad for helping me succeed. Dad retaught me how to add and subtract and they both helped me learn and so much more. Most importantly, they helped me remember how to love, care and also function in life, independently.

When I returned to school, after 6 months, at 17 years of age, I was obviously a different person. I went from being  competent 17 year old that had started on the baseball team, won All-American swimming honors, had friends, including a girlfriend who was a captain of the cheerleading squad, and who was ranked #1 academically in my school, to becoming a scared, unsure confused teenager. It was therefore quite a change of my circumstances.

As I recovered, obviously I was not able to clearly think until I regained my abilities. It was a slow process. As I recovered I questioned everything. I wondered a lot about fairness and why me. I also wondered, among many things, about religion. A lot of it started after reading Harold Kushner’s wonderful book, “When Bad Things Happen to Good People”. Notice it does not say “why” but “when”, even though for me it did provide a why. Since it is when, most can relate to what is presented in the book since I know most of us are good people. I strongly recommend all read his book.

Another memorable answer to some of my questions about the religion and belief in God came from one of Jonathan Haidt’s books, “The Happiness Hypothesis”. In the text he explained, on page 72, Evil bedevils religion. He asked, what he seemed to learn from Boyer, if God is all good and all powerful, how can evil exist? If God allows evil to flourish, does it mean God is not all good? Also if God struggles against  evil and does not win, does it mean God is not all powerful

Book Boyer, 2001. Religion Explained: Evolutionary history of religious thought

Some more information to ponder from Freedom from Religion Foundation:

Freethought of the Day


“The gods can either take away evil from the world and will not, or, being willing to do so cannot; or they neither can nor will, or lastly, they are able and willing.“If they have the will to remove evil and cannot, then they are not omnipotent. If they can but will not, then they are not benevolent. If they are neither able nor willing, they are neither omnipotent nor benevolent.“Lastly, if they are both able and willing to annihilate evil, why does it exist?”

Greek philosopher Epicurus (341-270 B.C.E.), Aphorisms

© Freedom From Religion Foundation.

Logic disproves all-merciful God

Atheism is rooted in scientific logic. And logic proves beyond question — more so in our present global situation— that a supernatural, all-merciful, all-powerful father-creator cannot exist.”

James Haught

What do you think?Progress toward a better tomorrow will require critical thinking, kindness, forgiveness and hard work. Science provides us with the best model to use, however we also must remember science is not perfect and requires us to always seek better answers.

I see our best path forward as one where we all work generating comprehensive improvements by creating net-positive, pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits. We cannot wait or hope for a supernatural miracle, we must work to cause good. Can you think of a better approach?


Craig Becker

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Updated: Push we needed?!?

Can any good come from the unprovoked war by Russia on Ukraine? If we take the big view, maybe it is the push we needed to do what we should have done years ago. We should have transitioned to clean energy over the last 40 years, rather than stay dependent on fascist regimes that sell us oil. As Thomas Friedman suggested in his April 10, 2022 article, How Do We Deal With a Superpower Led by a War Criminal? he recommended we should “…double down on ending our addiction to oil, Putin’s main source of income…”

Many other recent articles also seem to agree we should move to clean energy, see: NYTimes: What the Ukraine War Means for the Future of Climate Change, LA Times: One way to combat Russia? Move faster on clean energy, NYTimes: What Putin’s war could mean for fossil fuels, the Guardian: Could Ukraine war help end west’s reliance on hydrocarbons? and many more good articles. At the end of your post, I linked quoted and linkedThomas Friedman’s March 29, 2022 NYTimes article, “How to Defeat Putin and Save the Planet emphasizing our need to follow this push to generate comprehensive benefits. I encourage you to read his article.

Another article on the topic was published in The New Yorker by Bill McKibben, This Earth Day, We Could Be Helping the Environment—and Ukraine. As he explains,

“…It is, for instance, widely acknowledged at this point that Russia’s invasion of Ukraine is financed by fossil fuel, and that Putin is exploiting his control of Europe’s oil and gas to wage it. … Electrifying your home one machine at a time is today’s Victory Garden—a thing you can do to fight tyranny, inflation, and runaway emissions…Yet we’ve been asked to do none of these things. ”

Moving to clean energy will be better for the people, workers, animals, plants and the environment. It will mean more jobs, cleaner air, and less sickness. It will also enable people to engage in actions that will be selfish, selfless or synergistic. Will we finally speed toward a new, clean energy system? Should this new system include nuclear energy>?

Nuclear Energy

I was a no to nuclear energy prior to learning more. James Lovelock, the father of Gaia, which evolved into Earth Systems Science, strongly endorses the use of nuclear energy. He explains that it has gotten bad press due to the development of super powerful, life ending, nuclear weapons. As he notes, the power of these weapons alone should document the potential or nuclear power.

While I am certainly not an expert, I trust James Lovelock. He also recommends, in his 2006 book, Revenge of Gaia: Earth’s Climate in Crisis and the Fate of Humanity to read Nuclear Renaissance: Technologies and Policies for the Future of Nuclear Power (c) 2005 by William Nuttall and the 1999 book, Transforming Electricity: The Coming Generation of Change by Walt Patterson to learn more about nuclear energy.

Overall he recommends nuclear energy for these simple reasons, and more:

  1. Nuclear energy from fission or fusion is significantly more dense and more powerful than fossil fuels as is demonstrated by the power of nuclear bombs.
  2. Waste from nuclear energy is two million times less than what is generated by burning fossil fuels, for the same quantity of energy.
  3. Nuclear waste can be buried in forests, where it will HELP, not hurt trees or animals. Nuclear energy is, after all, what powers the sun.
  4. Although we cannot see carbon dioxide, fossil fuel waste causes incalculable problems sickness and climate change

These facts suggest nuclear energy at least needs another look. We should think again (see “Think Again” Very Helpful Book) Might the quick transition to clean energy be a possible benefit from this horrible war being perpetrated by Putin? Should Nuclear power, as recommended by James Lovelock, be part of the mix?

Along with many throughout the world, we are emphasizing that moving toward clean energy should be a way to move forward to generate comprehensive benefits by creating net-positive, pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits. Right now Russia helps power Europe.

This may be our best hope and opportunity to practice paneugenesis so we generate all good as we experience #SelfishSelflessSynergy benefits. I look forward to hearing your thoughts…what do you think? Did this help you “think again”?

March 29, 2022 NYTimes Thomas Friedman’s column suggests this must PUSH US and it can be “How to Defeat Putin and Save the Planet

As he explains, we can do many things to reduce our use of fossil fuels such as speeding the transition to renewables with legislation and even reducing the speed limit. He emphasizes that we must do this because….

“As long as we’re addicted to oil, we are always going to be begging someone, usually a bad guy, to move the price up or down, because we alone are not masters of our own fate….This has got to stop. Yes, there needs to be a transition phase, during which we will continue to use oil, gas and coal. We can’t go cold turkey. But let’s vow to double the pace of that transition — not double down on fossil fuels.

Thomas Friedman – NYTimes, March 29, 2022


Craig Becker

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Its Go Time: The Meteors Coming

As made clear in “Don’t Look Up“, the recent Netflix movie, we do not have time to debate, It is Go Time. The movie is a great analogy of current times and a cry for critical thinking and action.

It requires reflection and optimism that we can make a difference. We also must believe our action can make a difference. As Israel Zangwill reflected:

“Take from me the hope that I can change the future, and you will send me mad.”

Israel Zangwill, English dramatist (1864-1926).

Daily news seems to express concerns that it could be too late, including in this recent Washington Post article:

Satellite images show the Amazon rainforest is hurtling toward a ‘tipping point’

Of course, what option is there? The ONLY option is to do good, feel good for doing good and be regenerative, not just sustainable. Review of the interconnected world clearly demonstrates, the world wants to regenerate. The awesome thing is that the only way we can save ourselves is also the best way to create the best life for everyone and everything. We all benefit from generating comprehensive improvements when we are creating net positive, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits.

Nature does this, in all ways, including with the “Wood Wide Web”, where roots distribute resources most efficiently so trees make up a healthy and vibrant interdependent forest. The trees don’t fight for survival, they share to create overall success. That is how nature works.

We are nature, we can do this. We want to do this, well most of us, look at how the world is helping the Ukrainians and sharing resources. For more examples of how this works, see What goes down, must go up?, Survival of the Fittest Misleading, Strategic Alliances are Powerful, Trees & Forests Can Help Us!?, Tree’s to Nuts to People – ALL Connected SuperCooperators and many more. Please share how you are creating comprehensive benefits.


Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!


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