We Need to Use the 3rd Alternative

Umair Haque is one of my favorite authors. He wrote Betterness and The New Capitalist Manifesto: Building a Disruptively Better Business. He now writes thought provoking essays on Medium and Eudaimonia & Co. On March 23, 2020 he wrote, “Why We Need to Rethink Economics for the 21st Century, Now“. He ended his essay be explaining,

We are all in it together. I am better off when you are healthy, not ill. Intelligent, not ignorant. Educated, not uneducated. Well fed, not starved. Happy, not anxious and desperate. Full of meaning and grace and purpose and worth — not beaten into submission and despair and hatred.

We get a better life, when every body has a better life. Earlier, on February 18, 2020 he wrote the essay, “Are Our Societies Dying?: What if This Isn’t a Phase — But a Permanent Change?” .

I was disappointed because the tone was so much different than his previous work. I encourage you to read his essay. The response I wrote, posted below, focusing on the need for a better alternative, builds on many of my posts, including: Honoring Justice Scalia – Dare to DisagreeConcept: Create More Good, Not Just Less BadCreate More Good, Not Just Less Bad.

I encourage you to read Umair Haque’s work, it is thought provoking and I believe offers the third alternative we need.  Here was my response to his essay, “Are Our Societies Dying?: What if This Isn’t a Phase — But a Permanent Change?”

My response to “Are Our Societies Dying?”, by Umair Haque, Feb 18:

As always, be safe doing what you can to generate comprehensive improvements by creating pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone you can safely interact with benefits.

Thank you for reading, please comment below and contact me:
Email: BeWellr@gmail.com

Honoring Justice Scalia – Dare to Disagree

While I personally agreed more with Justice Scalia’s ideological opposite, Justice Ginsburg, I have learned Justice Scalia had desirable characteristics. Justice’s Scalia and Ginsburg were as different in their opinions as was possible yet they maintained a close friendship. From this there is much to learn.


To me this situation relates to what some consider Dr. Stephen Covey’s most significant work he described in his book, “The 3rd Alternative: Solving Life’s Most Difficult Problems“. What I understood this book to say was that we should always seek to find a better way by discovering the 3rd alternative. He suggested the better way was not found through compromise but innovation. In other words, he encouraged people not to accept to do things your way or my way, but a better way – the 3rd Alternative.

In related fashion, Margaret Heffernan provides wonderful examples of how and why seeking disagreeable or different points of view can yield better answers. I encourage you to learn the benefits she describes in her presentation, “Dare to Disagree”.

Interestingly and in a telling way, opposites seem to attract intelligence which can lead to better ways. The Practice of Paneugenesis is about daring to disagree with the status quo by discovering the 3rd alternative which are ways to generate comprehensive improvements by creating interactions so everyone and everything benefits.

I look forward to enjoying the benefits we generate for our world by daring to disagree with the status quo with selfish selfless synergy. We can develop ways to continually improve by creating and putting in place precursors that allow us to enable idealized outcomes that make this a more livable world for everyone and everything.

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker, PhD